Friday, October 5, 2012

Clingy

I don't understand clingy and delusional exes.

I feel like I understand it's very hard to get over "getting over" someone you love/loved but geesh, when do you finally get over it?! Like seriously...how long does it take to say you know what, I have to accept that this is over to a point of no return?


Maybe I'm a bit more logical but I think once I see that my ex has CLEARRRRRLLYYY moved on it's definitely past time for me to do so as well.

I will never get it. Maybe I'm more logical than emotional with breakups.

Just venting guys...don't mind me.

Misunderstood.

I think sometimes people don't understand how hard it is for military spouses. They see us out and about taking care of business, looking like a freakin rockstar but they don't know just how much stress and anxiety one deals with on a day to day basis. You're married, hopefully you're in love. Just imagine half of the time you've been with your spouse you've actually been WITHOUT your spouse.

Now take a moment to process that...

Okay so, let's say you and your spouse have been married for 4 years. Well, in military time, with deployments, trainings, duties, and schools you've only been together (physically) for 2 of those.

Now take a moment to process that...

Now let's add into account that out of those 4 years the 2 you've been physically separated everything is up to you to take care of...I mean, EVERYTHING! For a woman, immediately she goes into thought of who cuts the grass? who takes out the trash? who fixes the car when it's acting a mess? Ya know, the manly stuff? That you are now responsible for.

Now take a moment to process that...


I haven't even gotten to the point of emotional and sexual stress you're under but somehow everyone thinks you're supposed to be this iron man woman that never gets overwhelmed...anxious...or frustrated. Not to mention if you have a dysfunctional family that can't even begin to understand the stress you're under so their dysfunction goes on like you're not under enough stress as it is.. I'm not complaining, I love my husband therefore I support him, in whatever he does. But there is so much to being a military wife that people can't even begin to understand on so many levels that it sometimes makes you feel...well,

misunderstood.